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Posts Tagged: resilience

How To Deal With Adversity

About a year ago I wrote about the inspirational message that Sheryl Sandberg wrote after an inconceivable loss and her ability to pull herself up and face the day with courage. It was a great example of how to handle adversity and courage through the fear. She recently gave a commencement speech to the Berkeley Graduating Class of 2016 in which she talked about what she has learned in the year since her loss. Her thoughtful comments about how to overcome deep adversity (no matter what form it takes) are inspirational. She quoted psychologist Martin Seligman, who found that there … Read More

How to Get Over a Hurt

Do you ever feel like you sometimes get drunk on the drama of a hurt? It initially provides a good buzz, but after too many you suddenly don’t feel so good. That’s what happened to me last month. I did a bit of traveling to see family and friends, managed through two severe colds and worked relentlessly on a new free product I am going to offer this year. All of that left me exhausted. When I get exhausted, my resilience muscle starts to weaken, and I can easily slip into negative thinking, which is exactly what happened. A decision … Read More

When You Change The Way You Look At Things, The Things You Look At Change

This blog also appeared in the Huffington Post on 9/2/15. When I heard Wayne Dyer make that statement, it had a profound effect on my life. And it was not just that statement, for there were many more to follow. Wayne Dyer is often in my headphones. He is my walking buddy, my voice of reason, my teacher, my spiritual advisor. I connected with his outlook and his message and I honor him today by continuing to implement and share what he taught me. When you change the way you look at things, The things you look at change You … Read More

The Real Superman Exists, And You’ll Never Guess Where I Found Him….(Huffington Post Exclusive)

This blog also appeared in the Huffington Post on 7/15/2015. I always thought it would be cool to be friends with Clark Kent and his alter ego Superman. On the one hand,  I could use his super strength to open vacuum-sealed packaging, hitch a ride to the city to avoid traffic, and let’s face it, who wouldn’t want x-ray vision? But on the other hand, I would really want to know how it feels to use his superhuman abilities for the benefit of humanity. The actor, Christopher Reeve, portrayed Superman both on film and in real-life when his life took a … Read More

Kick The Sh*t Out Of Option B

I find a lot of inspiration in individuals who go through an inconceivable loss and are able to pull themselves up and face the day with courage. It is not courage without fear, but rather courage through the fear.  Courage is pressing through when the feeling of fear is present.  That is the best way to take responsibility and control of your life. Want a current day inspiration?  Look no further than Sheryl Sandberg, Chief Operating Officer at Facebook.  Sheryl was was on vacation with her husband when he fell off a treadmill, hit his head and immediately died.  He … Read More

Will I Ever Be Happy Again?

When I first read this I cried.  Not because I identified with the divorce, I’m happily married, but I identified with her pain, her struggle and, more importantly, her resilience.  Sometimes we think we are alone, that we are the only ones going through a struggle, but we aren’t.  We all ask ourselves “Will I ever be happy again?”  The answer is yes, even though at times it doesn’t feel like it.  Let this beautifully written account of one women’s journey be an inspiration to you. This blog first appeared in the Huffington Post on 5/22/15 and is reprinted with … Read More

How to Prevail Over Fear When Life Goes Sideways (Huffington Post Exclusive)

This blog also appeared on the Huffington Post on 5/13/2015. Is it possible to live fearlessly? Probably not. Fear is integral to our natural fight or flight response. It’s a protection mechanism to fend off danger. The issue, however, is that when we continually live from a place of fear, we use up all our energy on avoidance versus moving forward. Sometimes when we go through hard times, we fear rejection.  In order to avoid that feeling, you may find yourself withdrawing from the public eye.  It becomes much easier to avoid going out or to go out at odd … Read More

6 Ways To Overcome A Soul-Crushing Life Challenge (Huffington Post Exclusive)

The following blog appeared in the Huffington Post on May 3, 2015. It was never in your life plan, certainly never predicted in your high school yearbook. And yet, here you are. You’ve gone through a soul-sucking life experience and are suffering from the collateral consequences. Uncertainty, fear and disbelief rule the day. You keep waiting to wake up and find out this was all a bad dream. The problem is that wishing, wanting and waiting don’t help. Whether you’re still in the midst of the storm or idling in the aftermath, the truth is that you have to reach … Read More

What To Do If You Are Tired Of Being Strong

Did you ever have one of those days when something you see, hear, or think about triggers you to go down that “my life really sucks” rabbit hole? Happens to the best of us. This week it happened to me on three different occasions! I got a quick wave of panic as I heard the pity party revving up in my brain. I knew if I succumbed to it, I might just totally lose it. I thought about how good it would feel to sob, because lets face it, sometimes you get tired of being strong. Sometimes you just need … Read More

Why Negative Experiences Are Good for You

I often hear individuals lament about “why” something negative happened to them.  My simple response is, “because it was the experience that you needed.”  I know you are thinking, “Yeah I needed this like I needed a hole in the head.”  I get that.  I felt the same way and then I discovered that negative situations or experiences are placed in our life because the lesson, when learned, actually leads to a necessary transformation that we probably didn’t even realize that we needed. Through bad comes good, a concept that can be a little hard to wrap your head around.  … Read More

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