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Posts Tagged: Coping with Divorce

Refuse to Be the “Ashes” in Your Divorce

Published In The Huffington Post 4-26-16 I bristle every time I hear the phrase “conscious uncoupling” because it makes the dissolution of a marriage sound easy and pain-free. Let’s be honest, divorce hurts, and as many can attest, the beginning of the end is usually not that well mannered. Navigating a divorce is hard. It takes time to get over the initial anger, pain, and hurt, but then you have a big decision to make. Are you going to stay in the world of anger and hurt or are you going to try to move through the change with honesty … Read More

2 Things That Lead You to Lose Your Self-Confidence Amidst a Divorce

(This article was published in the Huffington Post on 11/17/16) Divorce, job loss, or the crumbling of a relationship are examples of sudden life-changing events that can cause pain and suffering—whether you saw them coming or not. Chances are pretty good that when a sudden soul-crushing event happens to you, anger and sadness quickly turn to blame, which can take two forms. BLAMING OTHERS You can blame others and point the finger at somebody or something that you feel caused your pain and suffering. In blaming others, you identify yourself as victim because it was done to you. The reality … Read More

How to Control the Negative Inner Voice Your Divorce Created (A Huffington Post Exclusive)

This blog originally appeared in the Huffington Post Divorce Section on 10/27/15.  The biggest lies are often the ones we tell ourselves. In my last post, “How Your Divorce Coping Mechanisms May Be Holding You Back,”  I discussed the danger of negative thoughts forming an endless loop in your head. In order to stop this, you have to understand what is controlling the loop in your head. The part of your brain that is controlling the loop is your ego. When you learn to harness your ego, you can transform the way you think to move past these self-destructive thoughts. When … Read More

How Your Divorce Coping Mechanisms May Be Holding You Back (A Huffington Post Exclusive)

This article originally appeared in the Huffington Post on October 1, 2015. Resistance reactions are the emotional reactions you have when going through a soul-crushing divorce. They are a coping mechanism designed to help you deal with the situation and a defense mechanism, a way to push back on the reality of a situation. They help you get through the first wave of pain and they’re a completely natural reaction to have when you are trying to comprehend what happened to you and why. The real problem, though, is if you get stuck in resistance reactions because they become an … Read More


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